Category: Let's talk
Before I go any further, I would like to emphasize that by creating this topic, I have no intention of getting someone to feel guilty about what he/she is doing, or have done.
This is simply something I have been wondering about, although I haven't lost any sleep because of it.
So, some harmless discussion is welcome.
Sometimes, here on the zone, as well as in other chat rooms on the net, you may find that people flirt with one another in a harmless way, meaning nothing much, just joking and having fun.
In most instances, this is harmless, and nothing much will come from it.
However: When does harmless flirting get serious and dangerous?
Are "occupied" people, whether they're just dating someone else, or married, or whatever, allowed some harmless flirting here and there?
When, and why, do people actually flirt with each other?
If you are happy in your relationship, why would you flirt with another person?
These are just a few questions that came to mind.
Let's hear your views on this, and more.
I wouldn't personaly flirt but for people who do it in my oppinion it's fine as long as they make it clear that what they are doing is not serious. If they have got a relation ship the person they are flirting with should know about the relation ship and the people who flirt should let their partners know that they flirt for fun online.
As long as they make it clear to their partners and the people who they are flirting i can't see a problem.
Different people judge situations differently, so different people will have different attitudes towards flerting, there's not 1 right answer to this question other than that I've provided.
i think people who don't make it clear to there partners that they may be prone to occational flirtings set them selves up for trouble. i think that there's a difference between online flirting and flirting in the company of the person you're flirting with. it's a little different when you know that that person is miles and miles away.
Yes, online flirting is fine as long as the other's partner knows about it, or as long as you make it clear to whom ever you're flirting with, that the flirting is strictly for fun and not to be serious
Yes, online flirting is fine as long as the other's partner knows about it, or as long as you make it clear to whom ever you're flirting with, that the flirting is strictly for fun and not to be serious
Greetings Ahafan, I am answering more from a point of "real life flirting/talking" rather than "internet flirting/talking."
Wouldn't this topic be better suited in the Dating and Relationships board?
There is a clear difference in flirting though isn't there? There's flirting to an end or a means, ie to proclaim a spouse etc, and then there is just harmless flirting. Some people are just naturally flirtatious. I know my gf is. In fact, I know she's the most flirtatious person I know. And I'm an extremely jealous type. So you may think that doesn't bode well. But there is nothing wrong with harmless flirting. I know it's like a sport to her, and it's all about having someone show interest with you, and feeling desired by other people even when you're in a relationship. And although it can make me extremely jealous on occasion, I know she means no harm by it. And I know she wouldn't flirt with someone in the leading them on sense. And the people she flirts with know she's seeing someone. It's just who she is, and one of the many things I love about her. I mean, her flirtatious nature keeps me on my toes, and that's never a bad thing! Flirting is as much part of her personality as anything else. I could never expect her to stop being flirtatious just cos we're together. It would be like expecting her to stop singing, or stop smiling. And then she wouldn't be the woman I fell in love with. I suppose I'm fortunate to have such a loving trusting relationship where I know it's just harmless flirting, and she'd never do anything to hurt me.
There is a clear difference in flirting though isn't there? There's flirting to an end or a means, ie to proclaim a spouse etc, and then there is just harmless flirting. Some people are just naturally flirtatious. I know my gf is. In fact, I know she's the most flirtatious person I know. And I'm an extremely jealous type. So you may think that doesn't bode well. But there is nothing wrong with harmless flirting. I know it's like a sport to her, and it's all about having someone show interest with you, and feeling desired by other people even when you're in a relationship. And although it can make me extremely jealous on occasion, I know she means no harm by it. And I know she wouldn't flirt with someone in the leading them on sense. And the people she flirts with know she's seeing someone. It's just who she is, and one of the many things I love about her. I mean, her flirtatious nature keeps me on my toes, and that's never a bad thing! Flirting is as much part of her personality as anything else. I could never expect her to stop being flirtatious just cos we're together. It would be like expecting her to stop singing, or stop smiling. And then she wouldn't be the woman I fell in love with. I suppose I'm fortunate to have such a loving trusting relationship where I know it's just harmless flirting, and she'd never do anything to hurt me.
This might be a silly question, but what would you do if a person new you were flirting with a guy/girl and didn't care about the type of flirting you were doing? I mean, I'm ok with harmless flirting just as long as you let that person know that it's not anything serious. But I think some people get paranoid when it comes to flirting, especially when they're in relationships. And that's all I'm gonna say on that one.
i personally am not a flirter...if people wanna flirt, fine by me, just dont ask me to participate.
Harmless flirting is fun, as long as it's just that, harmless. I am guilty of it myself, more in person than online, though. It's easier to come off as only goofing in person, in my oopinion. However, I have been in situations where I was not meaning anything serious by it, and the person did take it seriously. It's hard to back out when the situation gets that way, but it's the best thing to do as it can only get worse from there